I am up very early as usual, and after working out, started immediately on touching up caulking I had done yesterday on one of the "big secret house projects" we are working on. This afternoon when Adam gets home, we will finish one room, and will complete a project in the bedroom by tomorrow.
Taking a break for tea and a whole grain bagel, I walked through dimly lit rooms and stood in awe of our most recent DIY efforts in this old house. It is, of course an early home, but I am gob-smacked at how our most recent well-thought out, and long-anticipated projects have dramatically changed the house and made it look even earlier. The things we are doing are things I have wanted and waited for for years.
We seem to have a gift for not only having a vision in our heads, but for doing things that cost comparatively little, and yet make our spaces look "like a million dollars". Never having had much in the way of funds, I have always prided myself on my ability when I was alone here, to see in my head what I wanted to accomplish, and to ultimately do so "on the cheap".
This brings me to a few words about quality and about the necessity of learning patience. I am the first to admit that whatever I do, I want it to be authentic and very well done. I don't buy cheap, I buy
smart. In my antique collecting, as well as in everything we do to our home, I have learned not to buy willy-nilly to fill up space, or to sacrifice quality because I can't wait for the
right thing
to find me, or wait for the things I truly want. I have friends who have made so many mistakes by doing exactly those things.
One friend recently purchased a rug that is not of the right texture/weave structure at all for the era she is trying to recreate, and an item she believed was old, when it was something I have seen in several places online for about $55.---far less than she spent on hers. She has to be buying something every week, and often makes precipitous and poor choices. She is unhappy with her life, and she thinks that purchasing more and more antiques will change that...
It has taken me a lifetime to collect what I have, and a long time to transform a forlorn, rundown, 18thc. house into one that has been featured in national magazines and books. I am proud of the fact that I have used a lot of creativity and ingenuity in my efforts at decorating my home in period style that is also comfortable and realistic. I see so many collectors of antiques copying each other, and one house seems a clone of another. My husband says I am a trendsetter in a way, because he has seen a lot of people copying
me for years, not the other way around.
I wanted, and still do want to do things to the house, or get things that I have long wished for and dreamt of, but I learned long ago that to be really happy you have to be patient sometimes, and wait for the right time in your life for some things to happen.
The friend mentioned above lives in very comfortable and happy circumstances in the midwest, yet she is very unhappy. She wants to move to New England, and
right now. The fact that it is not coming together yet is causing her frustration that consumes her entire life.
I feel badly, because I know that perhaps it is in the cards that she come in 5 years or 10, or maybe not at all, and she is unwilling to wait, and to be grateful for and embrace all that she has and let destiny happen in it's own time.
I dreamed of living in a little house in New England like this one for over 20 years. I used to have pictures torn from magazines, of old New England houses plastered on my refrigerator. I was several years older than my friend when serendipitous circumstances ultimately brought me here. I look back and I see that there were reasons, and right times and wrong times. Even when I finally did come here, my house was in a deplorable state, and took years and years of sacrifice and back breaking work to make it as it is now.
Having endured a devastating economy-based job loss, we struggle every day to improve our circumstances. Until the right job in his field comes along, Adam teaches special needs children full time, and makes less than some people working at Mc Donalds, and not even close to a sub-standard living wage. We live very simply, and never beyond our means, and do many other odd jobs to survive.
I am well aware of the need for for fortitude and patience.
My friend has not researched New England, and many of her visions and expectations are romanticized, and not based on reality. During many phone conversations I tried to help her by telling her about real estate, areas, the costs of living here and about some of the ways New England is very different from living in the midwest. She wasn't interested in hearing any of it at all, preferring to continue living in a daydream, and doing no research or work at all to help her dream come to fruition.
Additionally,
she wants my life---everything about it. It is a little creepy and sad. Her husband has a very good job by anyone's standards, and they are far more secure and comfortable than a very great number of us. I wish that she could appreciate that, and be truly happy in the place she is...just for now, and in
who she is.
I think that to a certain extent, while we certainly have to persevere and fight to achieve our goals, we also have to let go of our own individual tendencies to micromanage every aspect of our lives, and just
wait sometimes---Wait for that inner voice or sign that says
now is the time...
This is your destiny...
The next few weeks will be extremely busy ones here. We will complete all the projects hopefully by the end of the month. We are on a tight deadline, as our DINNER WITH THE PILGRIMS is fast approaching, and we have been also working on things for that. I have solid days ahead of me of non-stop cooking and cleaning. We will debut our house projects first to the guests at our dinner. This annual event is our way of earning our real estate tax money, but it is also a very wonderful opportunity for us to share our period home with people from all over who do not live the 'historical life' that we do, and to give them a memory they will hopefully cherish always. After the dinner, we will be taking down all the house photos on the TOUR page of our website, and putting up all new ones. We think that our long-time followers and fans will be shocked and amazed at the changes in our home.

Later in November it will be time to take some pictures for our acclaimed and well-loved annual '18thc. New England Christmastide Photo Essay' feature on our website.
Soon too, I hope I will be modeling my new 18thc. petticoat and pet en l'air jacket for you, when it is completed, in a mini '18thc. photo fashion shoot' post~